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	<title>Rebuilding Divorce Recovery</title>
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		<title>Divorce Without War</title>
		<link>http://www.fisherrebuilding.com/divorce/divorce-help/divorce-without-war/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 10 Feb 2012 00:03:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeannine Lee</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Divorce]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Divorce Help]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Divorce Recovery]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Kids and Divorce]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[I usually write my newsletters about something I'm learning in my own life that I believe will also be of interest to you. Today I feel it is important to talk about divorce, specifically an alternative to the war of litigation that allows for better outcomes. Better for you, your finances, your health, your kids, your future. I want to talk to you about collaborative divorce.

I am a member of the Collaborative Divorce Professionals of Boulder County in Colorado, a group of professionals who are, as I am, passionate about this kinder, gentler way to end a marriage. It is a relatively new approach to divorce, and a lot of people don't know about it. It is an important alternative to consider.]]></description>
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		<title>Your Soul&#8217;s Desire for 2012</title>
		<link>http://www.fisherrebuilding.com/ponderings/your-souls-desire-for-2012/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Jan 2012 00:50:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeannine Lee</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Dreaming]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning from the Journey]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ponderings]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Prioritizing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Purpose]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Your Future]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[2012]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hope]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[intention]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[life after divorce]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[It’s a new start. Do you feel it? Have you felt the new surge of hope that has risen with the start of 2012?  Yay. Our world could use a little hope right now. I don’t think this rise is solely because of the new year. We’re also coming out of the depth of winter’s shortest days and starting the climb to longer days of summer. We've just turned a corner from yin to yang. From rest to action. It's a good time to ride the wave!

The beginning of the year, like the dawning of a new day, is filled with possibilities. Today's early January morning broke with brilliant pink chiffon clouds filling the sky. Wouldn’t it be nice if the new year heralded its presence with something as dramatic? Absent that, we are left to create our own celebrations.]]></description>
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		<title>Gratitude &#8211; A New Paradigm</title>
		<link>http://www.fisherrebuilding.com/ponderings/gratitude-a-new-paradigm/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 30 Nov 2011 00:45:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeannine Lee</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Creating Your Happy Life Again]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Fear]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Finding Peace]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning from the Journey]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Live Better]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ponderings]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[alignment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[confidence]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[forgive]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[forgiveness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[gratitude]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[grieving]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[internal locus of control]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[maturing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[paradigm shift]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[personal power]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[possibilities]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Purpose]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self responsibility]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[setting limits]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[trust]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[trusting again]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[trustworthiness]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.fisherrebuilding.com/index.php/?p=651</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Life is such a mixed bag. As Forrest Gump’s mother would say, “You never know what you’re going to get.” Life provides endless opportunities to choose, so much so, that I believe that choosing is truly what life is about. We make some of our choices with influence from our history, including family background. We make some of our choices by assessing a current situation, including the trustworthiness, or not, of the people with whom we are involved. But, hopefully, we will make most of our choices from a guiding sense of purpose. In order to choose well we must ask, “Is this choice in alignment with who I believe myself to be, or with who I am becoming?” Part of maturing is to learn the ins and outs of choosing well.

I’ve started compiling notes for my second book, which will include a fair amount on trusting again after relationship loss. It’s a fascinating topic. Trusting again is often difficult because of learned childhood patterns; but it is the only option for a satisfying life. Along with all that I’m learning about trust, I had a realization the other day that I thought I would share with you.]]></description>
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		<title>Imagine There are No Labels</title>
		<link>http://www.fisherrebuilding.com/ponderings/imagine-there-are-no-labels/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 02 Nov 2011 23:51:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeannine Lee</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Better Relationships]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Finding Peace]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[who am I]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[I have been (purposely) media deprived for years now. It’s just too depressing. Lately, despite my best efforts to keep it at bay the world has been closing in around me through the chatter of people I care about – colleagues, friends, and family. Even though I, mostly, understand that everything is at it should be and all will be well, it can still be overwhelming. I'm paying close attention to what I'm thinking about. I am re-examining the words I use - the labels I place on my world, including myself. The words I choose impact the condition of my heart, soul, mind and ultimate happiness.  I am making renewed effort to own the limitations that I put on myself and to claim higher and better thoughts. ]]></description>
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		<title>The Tumbler of Life</title>
		<link>http://www.fisherrebuilding.com/learning-from-the-journey/the-tumbler-of-life/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Sep 2011 16:03:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeannine Lee</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Creating Your Happy Life Again]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning from the Journey]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[dreams]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[finding your way]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[goals]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[missing aspects of ourselves]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[obstacles]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Think of all we could accomplish if we didn't encounter obstacles in the pursuit of our dreams. We humans are creative -- gifted in so many ways -- to the benefit of self, benefit of others, benefit of the planet. And yet, in direct opposition to those gifts are a plethora of obstacles. Sometimes it is our own best intentions that oppose us.  Sometimes the world itself seems to be ordered in such a way as to thwart our every effort. Perhaps it is as basic as physical science: for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Whatever the reason, the question becomes, Why?  I have an idea.

Life is not easy. Life is a push, pull, advance, retreat, assert, reassess. Life is designed to be pushed against -- to strengthen us, to help us develop our character and tap into our own resourcefulness. We have dreams, goals, vision, and purpose. It is in living out the dreams and goals that we find our personal power. The goal itself is of little consequence if taken out of the context of who we become in the process of attaining it.]]></description>
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		<title>Divorce for the Highly Sensitive Person</title>
		<link>http://www.fisherrebuilding.com/learning-from-the-journey/divorce-for-the-highly-sensitive-person/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 29 Aug 2011 18:56:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeannine Lee</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Balance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Fear]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Finding Peace]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Learning from the Journey]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Heal Your Life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[highly sensitive]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Louise Hay]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[negative thinking]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[over whelm]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[over-stimulated]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sensitive]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.fisherrebuilding.com/index.php/?p=612</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[All of us have a degree of sensitivity. It is part of what makes us human. We ‘feel’ the world around us. It’s just that some of us feel it more than others. To some the world is fun and exciting. To others it is just prickly and loud. 

I have just been reacquainted with The Highly Sensitive Person books. I’d read these books years ago when going through my divorce. “Yup, I’m one of those.” It explained a lot. But then I put them back on the shelf and forgot about them… until a painful confrontation with people I love. Although I believe in the benefits of productive confrontations I’m not very good at them... these things go deeply inside me.  Right there, on the bookshelf in the guest room where I was staying, as if written in neon was The Highly Sensitive Person book.  It was time for me to re-learn some things about myself.

As I read I was thinking about the overwhelm I experienced in and around my divorce. I came unglued many times, feeling like I was hanging on by a thread. I definitely looked over that edge of “Why am I here?” and “Would anyone care if I wasn’t?” I was certain that the amount of hurt I was experiencing wasn’t normal (whatever that is). Now I wonder if knowing then that I was a HSP would have made it less intense. I surmise that it would have. I would have at least known to be much more gentle with myself.]]></description>
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		<title>Feeling the Feelings</title>
		<link>http://www.fisherrebuilding.com/live-better/feeling-the-feelings/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Jul 2011 19:22:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeannine Lee</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Balance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Finding Peace]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Live Better]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[anger]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Fear]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Finding peace]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[freedom]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.fisherrebuilding.com/index.php/?p=587</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[I've recently been challenged with yet another growth step.  As with all growth steps it's confusing and uncomfortable... sometimes downright disconcerting as I try to reconfigure my beliefs.  What do I believe, now?  I am endeavoring to reincorporate some lost, or banished, parts of myself from long ago. They want to come back. I don't recognize them. I'm not sure I welcome them. I certainly don't know how to be with them. "Being with" a feeling, an emotion, an event, or a person is not necessarily just about tolerating the bad stuff. It is about allowing myself to have my feelings, right now, in the moment, unedited, and without apology. It is about allowing myself to be fully human and alive. Only by truly experiencing and expressing our emotional life do we have the ability to grow. ]]></description>
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		<title>Reassembling Life</title>
		<link>http://www.fisherrebuilding.com/live-better/reassembling-life/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Jul 2011 21:56:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeannine Lee</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Balance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Finding Peace]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Live Better]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[belief system]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[beliefs]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[emotions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[facade]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[forbidden parts]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hurting]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[owning your feelings]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[really living]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.fisherrebuilding.com/index.php/?p=572</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[When it comes to writing this newsletter I pay close attention to what is going on in my own life to see if it might be useful to you.  "Is there a message here?"  Right now I'm in the emotion, the loss, the confusion, the numbness of a – I'm hoping – growth experience. Even though it feels vulnerable to share I imagine we can all learn something if I do.  So here goes…

In the late 1990's I began a growth journey that lasted for over a decade. While on that journey my life was disassembled - piece by piece - right down to ether. I was then left with the task/challenge/opportunity of putting myself back together. Where does one begin the process of reassembly when their life is strewn about them in pieces?

Being confronted with what is not working in my life is ultimately a good thing. My head knows that. My heart is afraid. What will be required of me this time? ]]></description>
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		<title>You Get to Choose</title>
		<link>http://www.fisherrebuilding.com/relationships/you-get-to-choose/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 May 2011 21:58:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeannine Lee</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[BEing vs DOing]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Creating Your Happy Life Again]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Finding Peace]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Live Better]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Prioritizing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[choose your mood]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[explore ways of being]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[forgive]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[intention]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[let go]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sefl-help exercise]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[When it comes to getting through divorce or other significant life transition the ability to choose is your greatest asset.  It may seem like you've been handed one lone outcome.  It may seem as though you have no choices, but with a little exploration you can discover the fork in the road which is your choice point.  There is always a choice point.

The good news is that you can choose an intention for each day, doing so subsequently creates an intentional life, before you ever get out of bed in the morning.   Inside is an exercise from the first Design Your Life newsletter in 2005.  I revisited the exercise today and liked it so much I thought I'd bring it back for a second appearance.  It is written to help you choose how you want to be each day when you wake up, but you can adapt it for other things, too.

I'd love to hear what you think if you try it. 

Life by Design is developing more programs and resources for divorce and beyond to help you create your happy life again.  Look for some fun and interesting things coming in September.

Jeannine ]]></description>
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		<title>The Spirit of Letting Go</title>
		<link>http://www.fisherrebuilding.com/your-future/the-beauty-of-letting-go/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 02 May 2011 18:16:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jeannine Lee</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Better Relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Creating Your Happy Life Again]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Finding Peace]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Your Future]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[awakening]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[better relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[change]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[creating your happy life again]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Divorce]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Finding peace]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[letting go]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[new ways]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[renewed energy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[transition]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[I've had a number of conversations recently with people who are aware that life as we have known it is changing.  Our long-standing institutions like banking, finance, energy acquisition, government programs, disease care, and others who are unwilling or unable to bend with the winds of change are cracking.  And yet within all of it there is also rising hope…. Something new is taking form; new possibilities are emerging.   Just as a prescribed burn in an overgrown forest consumes the chaff making way for new growth so are we beginning to see buds of new life and new ways of doing things.  Through the blackened ash comes vibrant green life with renewed energy.  Any ending, including your current way of life that ends in divorce or our tired institutions, signals the beginning of a transition.]]></description>
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